When I was younger, I used to be a very angry person. Every little thing annoyed me, and I would hold onto that anger for days, sometimes refusing to speak with the person who upset me. Back then, I didn’t understand the impact anger had on my health, my relationships, and even my connection with myself. It wasn’t until six years ago, when I began my journey inward, that I realized how much anger controlled me.
As I turned my attention inward rather than looking externally for answers, I noticed that anger was one of the most dominant negative energies within me. It became clear that this energy was doing more harm than I had ever imagined.
Our mind is like the sun, always present in the sky. Sometimes, clouds cover the sun, making it seem like it’s not there. But the sun is always there, only hidden behind the clouds. Similarly, our mind is often covered with different emotions—anger, happiness, love, sadness, fear, and many others. Just like the clouds, these emotions can obscure our true nature, but they are temporary and can pass if we let them.
I started listening to podcasts and reading books about anger, and what I discovered changed my perspective completely. Anger had caused damage—not only to my relationships but also to my peace of mind. I learned that while anger cannot be eliminated entirely (it’s a natural part of being human), it can be managed. The key is not to let it control you.
The people who live joyful and fulfilling lives are those who can recognize anger when it arises. They see it coming—whether from a situation, a person, or within themselves—and instead of allowing it to take over, they let it go. On the other hand, those who remain unaware of their anger often let it dominate their lives, leading to destroyed relationships and inner turmoil.
The secret is to embrace anger as a natural energy but learn how to deal with it. We don’t get angry at people or things; instead, we forgive—ourselves and others. Forgiveness creates space for positive energy to flow into our lives.
Take a moment to reflect: how many people are you angry with right now? Visualize them and count them. Are you also angry with yourself? If so, take a deep breath and choose to forgive—both yourself and others. Notice the relief that comes with releasing that burden.
When we address anger in our lives, we pave the way for greater happiness and fulfillment. It’s not about eliminating anger but learning to understand it, process it, and let it pass without letting it control us. This is the path to inner peace and the joyful life we all deserve.
